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In our culture, "dating skills" are typically defined as learning to be more appealing or accommodating; the emphasis is on attracting men. Yet successfully attracting a man may not be good news if he is unsafe. And for every Scott Peterson or O.J. Simpson who grabs the headlines in a case of violence against a partner, there are thousands of men who harm women more subtly, with wounds that may not be visible to the eye.
Sandra Brown's book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved discusses in detail
- what makes men dangerous
- eight common types of dangerous men
- why women select dangerous men again and again
The How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook is a tool that will help you avoid dangerous men and keep your body and mind safe. Direct and practical, it gives you the tools you need to learn from your past mistakes so that you can avoid making them again.
The workbook is in three parts: Part One helps you assess your current risk level by providing you with an understanding of how you may be at risk for dating more dangerous men. Part Two guides you in taking stock of your history with dangerous men so that you can learn important lessons. Part Three helps you develop your critical-thinking skills and put them to use when considering future relationships, thereby setting the stage for healthy, safe choices.
Using over 20 worksheets and quizzes, this practical workbook will help you
- understand why you make yourself vulnerable to dangerous men
- take an inventory of your own dating behaviors
- identify your personal red flags and learn from your past relationships with dangerous men
- examine loopholes in your thinking that minimize, generalize or justify dangerous behaviors in men
- make new choices, opening the way for healthy relationships with safe men
With a direct approach honed in her workshops, Sandra Brown will help you change your old dating styles so that you learn how to avoid pain and danger, and improve your chances of finding intimacy and fulfillment with a good man.
"There simply are not enough wonderful things I can tell you about Sandra L. Brown’s book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved. Statistically almost 100% of the ladies coming through our shelter were returning to their abuser or getting involved in another dangerous relationship a year ago. Our program was based on the Power and Control Wheel” at that time.
Concern for our clients and their children lead our organization to look closely at what was lacking within our program. We quickly discovered that the majority of the clients we service knew and understood the Power and Control Wheel” but lacked the knowledge of how to apply it to their lives. Jointly we began to restructure our program around the pattern changing ideals in Sandra L. Brown’s book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved.
Participation in my group therapy has soared from one or two people I had to drag to group to nearly every resident in house at our eight room shelter. The majority of our clients will plan their activities around these groups as not to miss one. I often receive requests from our clients to begin my groups at an outside location so that they can continue to attend and learn. Our staff could not be more pleased by the results of the changes we have made to our program as not 85 to 90% of our clients are breaking the cycle and not going back to or getting involved in new abusive relationships. The clients that are returning to their abuser or getting into another dangerous relationship are the ones that do not attend our groups.
Our staff and clients that got to meet with and hear Sandra L. Brown speak could not have been more thankful and excited. Her work has done wonders in the lives of our clients and their children. We look forward to a day when we can say that 100% of our clients are making better life choices."
Renee L. Rose, Domestic Violence Advocate, Salvation Army Domestic Violence Program